Nick and I met online in a game called Dark Age of Camelot. I actually met his Father and Mother first. I was in a Guild with his parents, when he started playing with us. I had just come out of a relationship and we decided to hang out online and be friends.
The first time he left me know he was interested in me, I told him to go away because I wasn’t interested in dating at the time. Nick’s dad, had told me that his son is a great guy and I should give him a chance. He wasn’t worried about us living so far away from each other and he wasn’t concerned about our age difference. As time went on, I found that Nick was an amazing person and that we had a lot of the same moral values. We began long distance dating with the plan that when we were comfortable enough, we would meet in person.
I was attending a church where for the first time, I heard a person speak in tongues. I will be honest with you and tell you it freaked me out. When I got home from church, I called Nick and we talked about it. Then I talked to his mom about it and I felt better about what had happened in church.
I have spoken to one of my friends recently about speaking in tongues and she told me she has on one occasion. She and I have the same view, speaking in tongues is a wonderful thing but sometimes I think it can be faked. How are we to tell if it is truly a gift from the Holy Spirit or a rehearsed speech that someone is performing for us? (Here is a website if you want to learn more about speaking in tongues.)
Not everyone was happy when Nick and I started to date because of our age difference. If you ask the people who are closest to Nick and myself they say they can’t tell that there is an age difference. I believe that he helps me stay young and I helped him learn more about the world. So to me, it’s an even trade off.
Nick and I dated for about a year and a half and then we were married. The time leading up to our marriage was the most trying time in my life. Planning a wedding and blending families together takes a lot of work. Nick’s Grandfather made me feel so welcomed into the Erickson Family. From the beginning at least to me, he thought Nick and I were a good match.
From the beginning of our marriage, I wanted our marriage to emulate Grandpa & Grandma Erickson. Every time Nick and I visited them, I knew that I wanted us to be just like them. I am very sad to say that last year we lost Grandpa but I know that he is with us in our hearts. But, I still want us to be just like them. From the outside, to me, they were very much in love with each other and settled into a happy marriage. I believe that Nick and I are following in their footsteps. My friend Emily, says we are so much in love with each other that it is nauseating. (hahaha, Emily this still makes me chuckle.)
When Nick and I were married, we used traditional marriage vows. The words Love, Honor and Obey were used in our wedding vows and I meant every word that I said to my new husband. I will forever love him, I will forever honor him and I will forever obey him. The obey part, is the one that many people remove from the vows, however we chose to keep it.
Nick is the head of our household, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t get a say in what happens in our home. My husband listens to me when I talk. There are a lot of people who think I am a very spoiled wife because my husband is always bringing me presents. From the outside, it looks like he is the only person who does anything in our marriage but I do keep up my half of the deal. I try hard to keep our house presentable. I want our home to be ready if someone were to pop over. I don’t want to have to rush around and try to make the house look presentable. I try to make sure my husband has a good hot meal before he leaves for work. I believe that in a GREAT marriage it takes, give and take. It takes two to make a marriage work. If one gives up, a marriage cannot survive with just one person pushing it along. It is for that reason, my husband listens to what I say but he has the deciding vote. My husband is a very loving husband who does spoil me but I do the same to him when I can.
This year Nick and I will celebrate our 9th wedding anniversary. Even after almost nine years of marriage I am very much in love with my husband and I look forward to the next nine years and the nine years after that and the nine years after that…
Ephesians 5:28-33 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two become one flesh. This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (NIV)
1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. (NIV)
This post is dedicated to my loving husband Nick and to Grandma & Grandpa Erickson. I love you all so very much!
I pray you have a blessed Friday.